Every creature has a certain way of acting and behaving, which are unique qualities of it. All brains don’t act or work the same way and have unique ways in which they are wired naturally.
What makes us unique as humans and makes us superior to the other created elements is the way we act, behave and deal with situations around us.
Many guys say; "yes! I am a man!", but they don’t seem to truly understand the concept. Its not all about saying it, it’s about doing it. Men are naturally superior to women, but if you are truly a man, believe me, you are surely superior to women and you would be able to handle them, especially in relationships. Already nature has installed a first hand step in you by making you a logical creature which women aren’t. Yes! A logical creature! Why exactly do I say so? Well, the best explanation for this is the fact that women are feeling creatures, they aren’t logical beings. They follow their feelings and act based on their feelings, they don’t think logically like men. This simply explains why a woman would easily, clearly and ignorantly breakup with a guy who has done so much for her once he isn’t sexually attractive to her anymore or he stops displaying traits that are naturally attractive to women.
Recently I heard the news about a popular American artist; The Weekend, it said that he donated his kidney to his girlfriend who ended up breaking up with him. I don’t know how true this news is, but it is an example of what I am trying to point here. A guy wouldn’t usually act this way, he would sometimes remember all the good things his girl did for him and reason up things before deciding if he would break up with her or not.
Now, what I call a man here is someone who individual’s could look up to, try to imitate, someone who is an alpha male, someone who is irresistible to women and finally, someone that has natural qualities of a leader.
How do I get to do that?
1. Have a focus or goal:
Having focus is a very prominent thing is the life of a man, some people say that the reason a human being keeps on living is because he/she has something they are looking forward to or waiting for, they say that without something to look forward to, a human being simply seizes to exist because that is what keeps them alive, and this is true in a sense. First of all a man who has focus is damn attractive to women, women love focused men. As a man, you should have a goal, a focus, something you are working forward to, it might be something you have passion for, your business, a long term goal or short term goal, it could also be that you are looking forward to becoming a millionaire. This is a good thing because it helps shape your life, it helps bring out the masculine traits in you, it makes you a calm busy person, it’s helps bring out a special, happy, interesting part of your life. If you have a focus you wouldn’t be desperate and needy towards women because you have a part of your life that seems precious and more important to you than anything else. Women would begin looking at you and thinking; “what’s up with this guy?” “I need to get to know him” “he seems interesting”. They begin to feel this way because you look attractive to them, you have something else taking your time and attention from them and they really want to get your attention. If you have focus, it will really influence the way you talk or relate with people especially women, and trust me, they will sense it.
2. You don’t need anyone:
You are someone who sticks to what he believes in, you advice yourself, you don’t say something and change your stance on that subject later because of some mere influence. You are happy and content with the right choices you make and you don’t care what anyone has to say about it and more especially you do what you feel like.
Many guys fall into the trap of not being static, this is an example; you plan on taking your girl on a date, you feel that buying food and drinks for yourselves would be great. Finally that day comes, she says she wants to buy cosmetics, you simply agree on that without thinking twice, probably because you don’t want to get her displeased with you. This is very bad because it doesn’t show how manly you are, this doesn’t show that you don’t need her(even if you do) and sooner or later she will sense it and it will ruin your relationship. Women tend to fall in love with men who stand their ground, men who don’t seem to need them and who seem indifferent to the way their relationship might end up.
It’s good to compromise but don’t over do it and don’t always do it, do it few times. You should learn to balance it because you might go to the level of compromising too much or being too static and both could ruin your relationship.
3. Think and reason more than talking:
4. Traits that are naturally attractive to women:
A. Being a challenge:
Reasonable women don’t go after the cheap guys. To understand this better; have you ever met a “cheap girl” before? How do you feel? Turned off right? That’s exactly how it feels like when a woman notices how cheap you are, she will automatically be turned off. You should learn to beat women at their own game. Women go after guys who are really challenging. When I say “challenging” I mean, guys that seem hard to get or figure out, guys who don’t seem to be easily pleased by a woman’s actions, they seem to make women feel like they have to work so hard to get their attention. They don’t call when they say they would, they don’t always bug her phone with calls and texts, they could stay a day or two without saying “hi” to her, they don’t always profess their love for her, they don’t put her on the pedestal and although they might feel sorry for their actions, they don’t always say sorry. This is damn attractive to women, it drives them crazy for this guy because they know that challenging men are very rare to find and so they could do anything just to have him.
B. Mystery:
A guy who is mysterious is intriguing and attractive. It is a different case for a guy who is an open book. A guy who is mysterious could be an introvert, but that doesn’t mean he is anti-social. Naturally, women would want to know everything about the guys they meet and if you tell a woman much about yourself, you are automatically loosing your air of mystery. What I mean by a mysterious guy, is a man who doesn’t reveal much about himself or his activities to women whom he is attracted to or women who are attracted to him. This keeps the woman thinking, it keeps her in suspense, she begins to think; “oh what is this guy all about?” “maybe he doesn’t trust me much” “I need to know more about him”, this actually keeps her attracted to you because she has to work to get to know you more and earn your trust. An open book guy is a huge turn off to most women.
C. Confidence:
A man with confidence is a real man. By having confidence in your dealings and interactions with people and most especially, women, you don’t seem to be desperate or needy, and this is attractive because women deal with insecure, needy and desperate guys everyday. These needy guys get really insecure and shaky when they are confronted by a beautiful or elegant lady and immediately they can’t hold conversations with her for long, they get short of words. They are like this because by being needy, they automatically put their power into the hands of a woman they are attracted to, and they begin to see her as a God while forgetting that they as men are better than her. Women have to deal with these set of men almost everyday and most, right from childhood and it just gets them tired and pissed whenever they get into that kind of situation. A woman doesn’t want a man to loose his confidence when he sees her or when he is having a conversation with her, she doesn’t want him to treat her like as if she is greater than him, she wants to meet and talk to someone who is “different” from other guys, and when she meets a guy who isn’t confident or a guy who doesn’t act like “an alpha male” she gets turned off. With the way the body and brain works, you can’t hide your lack of confidence because even if you pretend, it will easily be noticed in your body language. So you have to learn to build your confidence.
D. Sense of humour:
It’s a good thing to be funny and cocky sometimes, it adds fun to your personality, no one wants to stay with someone too serious and boring right? What makes a man attractive to women is not just his ability to make funny jokes but his ability to flirt and make arrogant jokes. As we know it, attraction can’t take place without flirting, by flirting with a woman, you are telling her indirectly that you find her sexually attractive, but flirting should not be overdone or you will end up putting her on the pedestal which wont be good. To prevent this, it’s good to combine flirting with an arrogant humour, by doing this you make her feel that you are not really into her and this is really going to get her attention because she will begin to feel that she really needs to work to get your attention and care, an instance of what I mean is; at a bar, after a brief conversation, she asks you to buy her a drink, but instead of simply agreeing to that, you ask her to buy you a drink instead(but in a humorous way) and you both laugh about that or she asks you; “how does my hair look?” you respond; “oh....it looks so rough” she looks at you surprised, you simply look at her and say; “what were you thinking? It looks good of course”(in a funny way) and you both laugh over it. Here you are doing something very attractive and subconsciously she will understand the message you are trying to pass across to her.
5. Independence:
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