CAN I RELAX AND STOP BEING A CHALLENGE IN MY RELATIONSHIP?

All I am going to speak about now is totally contrary to what most guys think should happen in a relationship. Most guys think; "I have got her, nothing matters now". Many guys have the false ideology that once they are into a relationship with a woman they could relax and bother about nothing anymore. That's not true!

Being a "Challenge" doesn't end in a relationship! We know that one way to get women attracted to you is by being a Challenge, I mentioned what it means here, but it doesn't end once you are in a relationship with her. Well she is your girlfriend and you both are dating, but she has her life to live, it's not sure and definitely not probable that you both might get married. "She has her own life" means that she could go out with any guy she pleases, have sex with anyone she pleases and you just can't do anything about it.

Its her life and although she might owe you some explanation, don't forget that she is a "feeling creature" and she could do what she "feels like", also don't forget that she as a woman, has her wild side.

What should you do? 

Being a Challenge doesn't end in a relationship, just because you are into one doesn't mean you can relax. Have you heard the saying; "she is not yours, it's just your turn"? That's right! If you don't get up from your slumber, something messy might happen and you could destroy your relationship without knowing it. 

When you are in a relationship, you have to keep attracting her, by displaying traits that are naturally attractive to women. Example: Being a Challenge, being mysterious, masculine vibes, sense of humour(includes flirting), charisma. Without doing these things and taking proper control of your relationship, you are going the wrong way. 

Once a woman looses attraction for you, she will gradually loose respect for you, dump you and go out in search of a guy who would be able to attract her sexually. You can't blame her for this because that is how her brain is wired. Men think and act based on their thinking, women feel and act based on their feeling. 

What if we are married? 

Here in Africa, we have values and one of these values is the sacredness of marriage, so we are not used to divorcing so much like the Europeans because it would be seen as a shame, not only to yourself, but also to your family.

Due to this, an African man doesn't really need to bother himself about attracting his wife although, if he stops being a Challenge and stops displaying traits that are masculine and naturally attractive to his wife, his wife might eventually loose attraction and respect for him and his marriage might not be a happy one if he doesn't seat up.

In this context of marriage, it can't be hidden that many couples divorce at alarming rates these days and no one sees the importance of marriage anymore or even has regard for it's sacredness. So in this case, what should you do? It's very simple; display traits that are attractive to women, flirt when it's necessary, use humorous jokes when it's necessary and most importantly, don't stop being a Challenge to your woman. Being a Challenge doesn't end in a relationship and doesn't end in marriage either.

This is the secret behind living a happy married life!